Proverbs 19:13 A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
Oh Friends, before we get into the Bit, let me apologize for a numerical error I made yesterday. I said that I’d been writing this wonderful piece (smile) for four years. Sorry, but it’s only three, though we’re into the fourth calendar year; 07,08,09,10. The full three years won’t be up till late February, early March. I guess my faith was much stronger than my counting. But that’s good cause I’m obviously foreseeing myself having completed four years, and hopefully many more, which all depends though on the plans of the Grand Master. And who knows what plans He has in store for any of us? We’re sure though, that whatever they are, they will be for our good, to enable, not to harm us. But enough of me and my rambling, let’s get to the task at hand, the second part of the Bit; ‘and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.’ Hn, hn! Cousin Sol was really something else yes in his choice of words. Though we may not like them, they do convey the truth. A wife’s constant complaining and dissatisfaction are like an unending irritation that just wearies one’s soul. It compares to the monotonous buzzing of a bee or some night insect that keeps on making the same sound, which eventually drives you crazy. You can even liken it to an itch in some unreachable part of your body. You know how those can be very irritating. Some of you female readers might take umbrage at the statements posed here, but if you’ll look at the situation honestly, you’ll find that the statements are true. It is difficult to live with anyone who’s usually complaining, dissatisfied and negative. Don’t worry ladies, it also applies to men, but it just so happens that the female of the species tends to be the more nagging and complaining partner. (smile) But whether it’s a contentious wife or husband, they both can ruin the other’s life, home and family. And Sol doesn’t leave it there, he offers up some more wise words on the subject, for example: ‘It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.’ (Prov.21:9) And isn’t that the gospel truth Friends! It’s often easier to live peacefully in a little corner of the house by yourself, than in the whole house with an annoying spouse. Now if that didn’t grab you, listen to this statement. ‘It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.’ (Prov.21:19) Hn! Sol wasn’t making joke there at all nuh Friends. He claims it’s better to live in the desert, than with an angry, miserable person, which is pushing the envelope a bit, but if your thing is peace at all costs, then it does make sense. Sadly though, dissatisfaction, nagging and constant harassment is a prime reason for the breakdown of the family in today’s society. For one reason or another, few people seem to be relatively happy and contented with their spouses, and that negativity eventually seeps down to the children, then the entire household becomes contentious and unhappy. Oh Friends, the purpose of two people living together in matrimony is to help, encourage, uplift, and reassure each other, to provide a LOVING relationship, not only of the romantic kind, but one that enhances the human condition, that makes one feel like there’s something to live for, a reason to get up every morning. Unfortunately, we’re seeing less and less of these relationships. Spouses seem to expect perfection from their partners, when they themselves are far from perfect, and like everything else nowadays, there’s only a very small, window of opportunity. Understanding and compromise between imperfect people doesn’t exist much anymore. It’s simply, if we can’t fix it right now, then see you later alligator, it’s over. Just the very pace of modern society and it’s many demands works against the building of successful relationships. Today it takes much more gumption and willingness to keep a relationship afloat, than say two or three decades ago. Back then most people expected to be in it for the long haul, and something serious would have to happen for it to come crashing down. But today any frivolous nonsense will dissolve relationships. That’s why we have to be very careful before entering any long-term relationship. We have to know the negative baggage that each person is bringing to it, though the baggage usually comes out only after the relationship has been cemented. It’s one of the many reasons young people don’t get married or commit to a long term affair and just shack up, figuring that if it doesn’t work out, then it’ll be much easier to end. Oh Friends, no relationship is perfect, but we won’t have a stable society if we keep jumping here, there and every where, because stability comes from an inner sense of purpose to generally keep a good thing going. And many of the problems stem from pure selfishness and/or the exaggerated expectations on someone’s part, which in turn is generated by the unreasonable and selfish attitudes prevailing in our society. But Friends, true progress only results from stability. So if we intend to build a stable society, then we need to stop all the fussing and fighting over petty and immaterial things, cut out the dissension in our families and outside relationships, otherwise it will just continue to deteriorate. My people, we are our worse enemies, and until we realize that and truly decide to change, then there isn’t much hope for us. And I’ll close with a statement outlining how it should be. I’m not sure how I came by the original statement, but I’ve added my own touch to it. And it says: ‘Behind, before, or beside every successful man or woman, is a sensible, understanding man or woman.’ Yes mih Friends, we can only improve when we’re working with sensible, understanding people. So let’s see if we can’t generate some badly needed understanding in our society this year nuh. Much LOVE!…it takes one hand to wash another… two hands to clap…and two people to tango…
Oh Friends, before we get into the Bit, let me apologize for a numerical error I made yesterday. I said that I’d been writing this wonderful piece (smile) for four years. Sorry, but it’s only three, though we’re into the fourth calendar year; 07,08,09,10. The full three years won’t be up till late February, early March. I guess my faith was much stronger than my counting. But that’s good cause I’m obviously foreseeing myself having completed four years, and hopefully many more, which all depends though on the plans of the Grand Master. And who knows what plans He has in store for any of us? We’re sure though, that whatever they are, they will be for our good, to enable, not to harm us. But enough of me and my rambling, let’s get to the task at hand, the second part of the Bit; ‘and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.’ Hn, hn! Cousin Sol was really something else yes in his choice of words. Though we may not like them, they do convey the truth. A wife’s constant complaining and dissatisfaction are like an unending irritation that just wearies one’s soul. It compares to the monotonous buzzing of a bee or some night insect that keeps on making the same sound, which eventually drives you crazy. You can even liken it to an itch in some unreachable part of your body. You know how those can be very irritating. Some of you female readers might take umbrage at the statements posed here, but if you’ll look at the situation honestly, you’ll find that the statements are true. It is difficult to live with anyone who’s usually complaining, dissatisfied and negative. Don’t worry ladies, it also applies to men, but it just so happens that the female of the species tends to be the more nagging and complaining partner. (smile) But whether it’s a contentious wife or husband, they both can ruin the other’s life, home and family. And Sol doesn’t leave it there, he offers up some more wise words on the subject, for example: ‘It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.’ (Prov.21:9) And isn’t that the gospel truth Friends! It’s often easier to live peacefully in a little corner of the house by yourself, than in the whole house with an annoying spouse. Now if that didn’t grab you, listen to this statement. ‘It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.’ (Prov.21:19) Hn! Sol wasn’t making joke there at all nuh Friends. He claims it’s better to live in the desert, than with an angry, miserable person, which is pushing the envelope a bit, but if your thing is peace at all costs, then it does make sense. Sadly though, dissatisfaction, nagging and constant harassment is a prime reason for the breakdown of the family in today’s society. For one reason or another, few people seem to be relatively happy and contented with their spouses, and that negativity eventually seeps down to the children, then the entire household becomes contentious and unhappy. Oh Friends, the purpose of two people living together in matrimony is to help, encourage, uplift, and reassure each other, to provide a LOVING relationship, not only of the romantic kind, but one that enhances the human condition, that makes one feel like there’s something to live for, a reason to get up every morning. Unfortunately, we’re seeing less and less of these relationships. Spouses seem to expect perfection from their partners, when they themselves are far from perfect, and like everything else nowadays, there’s only a very small, window of opportunity. Understanding and compromise between imperfect people doesn’t exist much anymore. It’s simply, if we can’t fix it right now, then see you later alligator, it’s over. Just the very pace of modern society and it’s many demands works against the building of successful relationships. Today it takes much more gumption and willingness to keep a relationship afloat, than say two or three decades ago. Back then most people expected to be in it for the long haul, and something serious would have to happen for it to come crashing down. But today any frivolous nonsense will dissolve relationships. That’s why we have to be very careful before entering any long-term relationship. We have to know the negative baggage that each person is bringing to it, though the baggage usually comes out only after the relationship has been cemented. It’s one of the many reasons young people don’t get married or commit to a long term affair and just shack up, figuring that if it doesn’t work out, then it’ll be much easier to end. Oh Friends, no relationship is perfect, but we won’t have a stable society if we keep jumping here, there and every where, because stability comes from an inner sense of purpose to generally keep a good thing going. And many of the problems stem from pure selfishness and/or the exaggerated expectations on someone’s part, which in turn is generated by the unreasonable and selfish attitudes prevailing in our society. But Friends, true progress only results from stability. So if we intend to build a stable society, then we need to stop all the fussing and fighting over petty and immaterial things, cut out the dissension in our families and outside relationships, otherwise it will just continue to deteriorate. My people, we are our worse enemies, and until we realize that and truly decide to change, then there isn’t much hope for us. And I’ll close with a statement outlining how it should be. I’m not sure how I came by the original statement, but I’ve added my own touch to it. And it says: ‘Behind, before, or beside every successful man or woman, is a sensible, understanding man or woman.’ Yes mih Friends, we can only improve when we’re working with sensible, understanding people. So let’s see if we can’t generate some badly needed understanding in our society this year nuh. Much LOVE!…it takes one hand to wash another… two hands to clap…and two people to tango…
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