The Importance of a Godly Relationship Existing between Fathers and Children!

Today’s Scrip-Bit   21 June 2026   Ephesians 6:4.

Ephesians 6:4.        And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture (training) and admonition of the Lord.

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!

It’s another Sunday friends, a mostly sunny one. And yes, Sundays show up like clockwork, right on time, to remind us that we need to make our way to the Lord’s sanctuary for praise and thanksgiving. And this Sunday is a special one in the lives of fathers because we celebrate them today; show them the many ways we cherish, appreciate and admire them.  But before we get into talking about our earthly fathers, let’s remember the best father there is, our heavenly Father.

And today’s song of worship is especially in His honour. It’s appropriately titled, ‘This is my Father’s World.’ It’s a popular Christian hymn penned by Maltbie Davenport Babcock, (1858-1901) a Presbyterian minister from New York. When Babcock resided in Lockport, it’s claimed that he would take strolls along the Niagara Escarpment to savor the overlook’s scenic view of upstate New York surroundings and Lake Ontario, telling his wife he was “going out to see the Father’s world”.  Unfortunately, the poem wasn’t published until after his death in 1901, when his wife released a collection of his poems that contained it. And it wasn’t until 1915 that it appeared in the current hymn form.

So, on this special day for fathers, let’s offer up our sweet sacrifices of praise in a soulful, scintillating, mid-tempo version of the song. Singing: ‘This is my Father’s world, And to my listening ears All nature sings, and round me rings The music of the spheres. This is my Father’s world: I rest me in the thought Of rocks and trees, of skies and seas– His hand the wonders wrought. This is my Father’s world: The birds their carols raise, The morning light, the lily white, Declare their Maker’s praise. This is my Father’s world: He shines in all that’s fair; In the rustling grass, I hear Him pass, He speaks to me everywhere.

This is my Father’s world: O let me ne’er forget That though the wrong seems oft so strong, God is the Ruler yet. This is my Father’s world: Why should my heart be sad? The Lord is King: let the heavens ring! God reigns; let earth be glad! I have a Father, a glorious father, He reigns in power and in LOVE, We have a Father, our glorious Father, creator, King and God. This is my Father’s world: O let me ne’er forget That though the wrong seems oft so strong, God is the Ruler yet. This is my Father’s world:’

And so it is my people! As Bruh David so rightfully says in psalm 24: ‘The earth is the Lord’s, and the fulness thereof; the world, and they that dwell therein. For he hath founded it upon the seas, and established it upon the floods (rivers).’ (Ps. 24:1-2) And having noted that the world and all therein belongs to our heavenly Father, let’s take a quick look at the relationship between Him and His Son Jesus. That’s the best father – son relationship there’s ever been, and will ever be.

And though the Father sent Jesus to die on the cross to pay our sin debt, Jesus never held it against Him, but continued LOVING Him because He knew the great thing the Father was trying to do, and that He was the only person capable of doing it. Instead, Jesus praised the Father and the close relationship they enjoyed. As He said: ‘I and my Father are one.’ (John 10:30) And later on, when praying for believers, He again declares: ‘That they may all be one; as thou Father, art in me, and I in thee, that they also may be one in us: that the world may believe that thou hast sent me. And the glory which thou gavest me I have given them; that they may be one, even as we are one.’  (John 17:21-22)

Yes friends, though that’s a tough relationship to cultivate between earthly fathers and children, that’s the type of relationship we ought to seek.  And the Lord warned us of the importance of honouring our parents from way back in the Ten Commandments, with the only commandment of promise, when He declared: ‘Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.’ (Ex. 20:12) So, although our relationship with our fathers might not be of the strongest kind, it’s still our duty to respect and honour them.

And there are many good, bad and indifferent fathers in these crucial times. Fathers are supposed to be the head of the household; to take the lead in godly behaviour, to lead the children by their own example. But the fact that there are so many absentee fathers from today’s homes, so many single parent families, that it takes a toll on all relationships. Ofttimes the one parent is out working to make ends meet while the children are left on their own, and with no proper parental guidance get into all kinds of trouble. Lack of proper parental guidance is certainly one of the causes for so much current youth violence and crime.

It’s true that Cousin Sol theorized: ‘Train up a child in the way he should go: and (even) when he is old, he will not depart from it.’ (Prov. 22:6) And that holds true to a certain extent, but as the old people would say, you make the child but not their minds. So regardless of what you teach them in their youth, circumstances, friends, whatever, can always cause them to go astray. But still, we need more fathers in the homes, and fathers that care and are willing to do their God appointed job and guide their children in a God-like manner.

And it’s why Bruh Paul warned in the letter to the Ephesians. ‘And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture (training) and admonition of the Lord.’ (Eph. 6:4) And as the scholars point out, there are several ways in which fathers can provoke their children to wrath; ‘by injustice, loss of temper, undue severity, cruelty, favouritism, suppression, sarcasm, ridicule, and misuse or abuse of authority. Meanwhile, nurture here means spiritual education. Admonition is instruction that points out one’s responsibilities and duties. Of the Lord, indicates that behind the parents’ rearing and instruction of their children stands the Lord as the chief teacher in child education. Parents do not rear children alone.’

The long and short of the story friends is that the family as the basic foundation of our society is falling apart, as marriage and childbearing fall by the wayside, and the number of godly men who are willing to participate in rearing godly children also dwindle. But fathers, this is a wakeup call for us all to do better. Just look at how our children are running around aimlessly and irresponsibly, getting into oodles of trouble. That is not a good sign for the generation to come, so let’s rise up and do something about it nuh, for it’s our bounden duty. Much LOVE!

…if we don’t turn things around now…the next generation will be a total disaster…

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Today’s Scrip-Bit 17 June 2012 Ephesians 6:4

Ephesians 6:4.    And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
 
                                                                                                               HAPPY  FATHER’S  DAY!

Oh Friends, unfortunately it’s become another one of the many money-making, commercial days on our calendar. It also shows up the many open and festering wounds in our society. But at least it brings some families together, and I guess we have to be thankful for those small mercies whenever we get them. Anyway, to all you Father’s out there; the good, bad and indifferent, HAPPY  FATHER’S  DAY! I know that the position of father in the households of our society has been severely lessened and eroded for a variety of reasons, consequently, there are many fewer families with live-in fathers, and too often the poor mothers also have to play the role of father. This obviously is not in the best interest of the family, especially the children. But I’ll beg to differ here just a little, for in some respects a family is better off without a father present, if that father cannot or will not do what our Bit dictates. ‘And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture (training) and admonition of the Lord.’ Yes Friends, an ungodly live-in father can do much more damage to a child than an absentee one. I talk from some experience here. As far as I know my father was as godly as they came back then, but thank the Lord I didn’t live with him, because we could never see eye to eye on any subject, and I’m sure if we had lived together, I would have turned out much worse than I did. Hn, hn! Don’t get me wrong, he supported me financially and took some interest in my education, but even when I attained manhood, our ideas still never gelled. Strangely though, since I’ve attained middle age, I’ve seen the wisdom in some of his pronouncements, and I often wish I could be as cool, suave and unflappable as him, and not the loudmouth I’ve become. But that’s because I wear my passion on my sleeve, (smile) and he didn’t. Anyway my brethren, we all know that there are too many dead-beat or absentee fathers in our society today, and it just seems to be getting worse as the young people, both men and women, don’t seem to take the bringing of children into this world as seriously as they should. It’s something we older folks should have drilled into the young people’s heads when we had the chance, and though it might be a bit late now, we still ought to try. And in the irresponsible society we now live in, too many men go around fathering children, unconcerned about how those unfortunate children will fare in this evil, cruel, ungodly world. They beat their chests with false, macho pride at how many baby mothers they have, utterly unconcerned about how those baby mothers are going to mind those babies. Ah Lord eh Friends, sometimes when I hear them with the stupid boasts, I feel like taking a bull-pestle to them! However, let’s move on and hear what the scholars have to say about our Bit. ‘Fathers can provoke their children to wrath by injustice, loss of temper, undue severity, cruelty, favouritism, suppression, sarcasm, ridicule, and misuse or abuse of authority. Nurture basically means “training,” here denoting spiritual education. Admonition is instruction that points out one’s responsibilities and duties. Of the Lord is in Greek a subjective genitive. This indicates that behind the parents’ rearing and instruction of their children stands the Lord as the chief teacher in child education. Parents do not rear children alone.’ Oh my brethren, I couldn’t have said it any better myself. I just hope that I made a passing grade as a father using those principles. I wasn’t spectacular, but I think I was good enough eh children? (smile) And yuh know Bruh Paul thought fatherhood so important that in his letter to the Colossians, he again admonishes: ‘Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.’ (Col.3:21) Oh my people, fathers have such important roles in children’s lives; guide, leader, provider, that children suffer considerably when there’s no good father figure around. And from the very beginning the Lord thought fatherhood so important, here’s what He says of Abraham: ‘For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the Lord, to do justice and judgement (righteousness and justice); that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.’ (Gen.18:19) Oh Friends, there’s no higher compliment the Lord could pay to a father! So all you fathers out there, I’m begging, pleading, beseeching you to become responsible and seriously look after the welfare of your children. You might have had a bad example of a father, but that doesn’t mean you have to continue the negative cycle. Sadly, it’s the children who eventually suffer the most, and consequently we raise a generation without proper morals and principles, and thus begins the decline of the society. Remember Friends, a society is only as strong as the principles on which it’s built and functions. More on this tomorrow, the Good Lord willing. Till then, fathers please show greater interest in your children, it’s your bounden duty, plus you will also be well rewarded, here on earth, and in heaven above. Much LOVE!…though Jesus was God…to whom did He look for guidance and direction…His heavenly Father…there’s no better example for us to follow…